Destination of quitting journey- life after smoking
Often I see, how people are looking for support just before start quitting. They write to a support groups about their plan to quit from next Monday, and only one day left. Some of them are going cold turkey, others prepared some patches or nicotine sprays, no matter what their quitting plan is, they have a feature in common- they are stressed out of the thought they gonna not smoke from that day anymore. They are scared of life after smoking.
They know their life should be better, but they have no idea, how life after smoking will look like. The unknown is driving them crazy, don’t fall in to this trap.
There is a saying that every ship has it’s port where it heads to. Every journey has a destination in other words. Before starting your smoking quit journey, I highly recommend you to make a blueprint of your life without smoking. Make your destination port where you want to come finally.
Your picture of future smoke free life has to be individual. Put some effort to this one, because nobody can do it for you. You are unique, your life is personal with or without a cigarette, so carve this blueprint on your own without googling. It is important.
To make this task easier I can give you a general guidelines how to master your own plan. You have to pay attention to a several features of your life.
Health without a smoke
Perhaps the main reason we commit to quitting is our health. We may be worried about our future health, but more than often we already feel some signals our body sends to us, that smoking is not good for us at all.
Start your future life blueprint from health features you would like to improve starting from now. Write a first paragraph in a present sens, something like “I live my life with a natural color white teeth, have no cough in the mornings and feel all the scents bright and clear”. Write everything you fantasise about your heart work, blood pressure, and diabetes. Everything what is important for you. I do not want to give a list of health aspects so your smoke free life blueprint remains individual. I am sure you know your health reasons.
The second paragraph I suggest is long term health benefits smoke free life rewards. Longer life, better quality of it. Reduced risk of diseases in old age. Be as specific as you can. For example there is a scientific opinion (would call it like that), every cigarette smoked, shortens your life by 11 minutes. Make your calculation, how much you smoke averagely a day/ week/ month, calculate how much time statistically left for you to live according to your countries average lifespan.
Calculate how many months/ years you going to prolong your life if you live average lifespan. I’ll give you a hint. If 20 years left until the average lifespan for you and you smoke a pack a day- you will prolong your life by 3 years. In average of course. 3 years it’s ¾ of a time spent in college. Do you remember how those years where fascinating and how much of different experiences and emotions you gained during that time? Give yourself that time as a present for the future you.
It may be not a college for you, maybe some job position, or a time you where raising children or attending dram school. Make your own calculation of extra time gained by not smoking and remember your own best piece of your life that equals that time saved. Write everything down. Write your fantasies how you are going to spend that extra time in the future.
A time of gratitude came. Be grateful for what your done for your future you. Write a paragraph of appreciation about your clean lungs, shiny teeth and a prolonged life. This might be the shortest paragraph, but a very important one. Gratitude is one of the strongest emotions human being can feel, let yourself be grateful.
Cigarette free finance
Financial part of quitting smoking is not so versatile and powerful to my mind as health, because cigarettes in your country may be cheap or you might be a wealthy enough to neglect the price of a smokes and that is fine. In this situation, please, concentrate to the health part, but to those whose addiction has at least some impact to their finance, please write a paragraph or two about life after smoking in terms of financial benefits.
Use the calculus from a health part of your blueprint. Make your notes how much you save a day, a month, during all your prolonged lifespan, Write some ideas how you are going to spend this money. Maybe you can buy something for yourself, or on a contrary, you are going to give part of extra money saved to charity. Being grateful and sharing with others may lift you to whole another level. Don’t be sceptic before you try. Feeling of doing something good meaningful heals the soul. People say not only from smoking.
Be as specific as possible with your future spends. If your plan to buy a motorbike, describe it in details. Put some time in to it, make an additional google research. It should be pleasant and fun for you. If you choose a charity, write down some reasons why you chose that charity over the others. Maybe you are going to put some money to different charities every half a year. Write everything down.
Social life without cigarettes
Social life is a tricky one, as it is a debatable if a social life without a smoke is a positive or negative change. And that is your job to make a decision. Be honest to yourself. It varies from a situation to a situation of every person, considering his social surroundings.
It may be you are living in an environment where smoking is judged as a bad habit. In that case write a couple of paragraphs about your life without sneaking out of the office round the corner to smoke. Maybe you do not have to smoke in your kitchen near the opened window with a light off. Write about having no cravings at your parents house during the holidays, that you don’t wait leaving moment anymore so you could smoke in the care. Those are my humble fantasies, use them if it is your case, but generally you have to think about your personal situations, and write a blueprint of those situations without smoking, and most importantly without craving to smoke. Yes, you will not have any cravings in the future.
On the other side your social environment may be strongly addicted to nicotine. Work, family, pubs on weekends. That is OK. Write your fantasy about living near those other addicts while you have not a single tiniest craving. It may be hard to imagine yourself a nonsmoker and craving free, but try your best. You are addiction free in your parallel life, where all the environment, people, smells and colors are the same as in your real one, just you are a nicotine and craving free.
The fantasy you write may be not persuasive for you as you do not imagine having no cravings, but it is not that important, this is your first step, you’ll be laughing at yourself in 3 months period from now, writing whole another projection of your cig free social life.
Final thoughts on smoking free life blueprint
I know how it is hard to sit and write a thousand words on life after smoking, but I dear you not to stop creating your future you on a peace of paper because of that. Here are some advice.
Start from thinking, not writing. Don’t sit and think about the first sentence. Walk, drive, watch dumb TV show and think. Think about your present and future health, money and social habits. Fantasize. It is so much fun by the way, and nobody sees that. If you rinsed some clear idea, take out your smartphone and write it down. IPhone notes, google docs, does not matter, just write it down at that very moment, because you’ll forget it in about 15 seconds. Believe me, you have no time to come back from the office or wait until the morning. Write it down now. After you collect 5-8 of your original ideas, sit down, read this article again and try to write a 2 sentence comment to every idea you have on your list. That is what I call to sail off the port. Now you are in an opened waters of your smoke free life blueprint writing.
If you took my advice on creating a cigarette free life blueprint, please, share with me your thoughts in a comments below. Positives and negatives of this technique are very important to me. If you feel struggling with you blueprint but want to create one, you may always contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for a personal consultation. Be aware, I will not write a word for you, you will do it on your own, I just lead you through that creative journey, and show you how many thoughts and ideas you have, just not letting them out.
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Be creative, be grateful.